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Have you ever in a conversation,
and was or is somehow felt this talk is useless? In your chat group, you would
prefer to be a good silent reader when the humdrum just heats up. Or else, you
choose yourself to jump in the chat and face and discuss whatever topic coming.
And somehow, you pose yourself to be Mr. Know-All. Both face-to-face
conversation or ordinary group chat in your phone, few prefer to be silent and
few are resilient. Whatever side you choose, you can mind the talk or talk the
mind.
Mind the
talk, in the surface, would seem to show ignorance toward many things
discussed. Few show concern as well. Being ignorant does not mean you do not
care. It's just simply what being argued just things you know best.
Whether it is best to be forgotten or best just trivial talk unnoticed. As you
somehow know what is disputed and rumored just being so important in the chat,
not in the real world. Or the talks just simply triggered hatred and dislike
toward someone. Unfortunately, the talk happens to be grunting hoax.
Talk the
mind is exposing yourself to be actively engage in a chat. Whether it is simply
talking pomposity of someone or things or heavier discourse, you seem to draw
yourself deeper in the conversation. You really talk or express what is your
concern toward the problem. Though solutions may yield another problems, you
just keep hoarding the discussion till your wits end, probably. The talk just
disturbs your mind and would somehow things should be kept in order. Though
criticism were give and brag-about are around, you keep on chatting. And few
somehow, could offense implicitly or explicitly toward you or others in the
group chat.
Face-to-Face
or Face-to-Screen
An
encouraging or discouraging talk or discussion could happen. Either in a more
natural setting such as face-to-face interaction or a gadget-aided chat or
face-to screen, the individuals act accordingly in the setting. In a more
direct face-to-face talk, all the elements in speaking involve. Your gestures,
facial expression and eye contact deliver meaning. A relaxed shoulder from
your colleague simply means interest to continue chatting. A slight bored face
from your friend after a long hour of working, poses bad time to have
conversation. Or deliberate losing eye contact from your discussing partner
would address a halt in the discussion. Everything happen in a face-to-face is
far from bold and honest. Both in a much hierarchical talk between you and your
boss and leisure chit-chat with your friends, natural setting talk is far from
pretense.
While in
face-to-screen chat, almost anything could happen. Few people feel comfortable
to be anonymous in Facebook or blog. Anonymity is anyone's right, but in a talk
this could hinders certain clarity. Or it could rise doubt. You don't really
know if the things you discussed come from a reliable source person. He or she
could simply tells lies. Latent intention of spurring hate or disseminate hoax,
could occur.
A
Whatsapp chat could be detrimental if many would perceive themselves righteous.
A regular chat about recent news of rise of price could end in
marginalizing someone, in other word kicking-out from the group. A chat group
is dominated by those who have the same interest. Any disruption of the welfare
of the group should be eradicated, ASAP. Or, criticism should meet a standard
that the group has conventionally made. All is based on the merit of
prominent figures in the group.
Both mind
the talk or talk the mind play their roles in both settings. As somehow in
natural setting, few people are good in hiding their feeling. They become so
good, that you are not able to decide whether he or she agrees to what you say.
But of course, in a unnatural setting, group chatting brings more
unpredictability than it looks like to be. Saying OK or typing 'a thumb' does
not mean merely you comply. It can mean everything from just to be polite to
preserve consensus. You could mind the talk and keep being a good silent
reader. Or, you could talk the mind if you have many things to say.
In the
end, mind the talk could push you to end your presence. You rather leave or
hide the conversation of a group in your smartphone. Since leaving the group
intentionally is considered rude, the last option is asking the group
administrator to remove you from the group. In natural setting, you could show
your disinterest or slight gesture to end the conversation. While talk the mind
end purpose is of course dominating the discussion. Being a high-profile in the
group and to happen know everything are to be seen by those who talk
the mind. Though good things also come from those who talk the mind, but
few are frivolous.
It's our
decision to mind the talk or talk the mind in a discussion. Because sometimes,
those who speak the least have the biggest way of doing what they know.
Regards,
Solo, 24 Februari 2016
11: 35 pm
(Reblogg from Kompasiana, here)
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